6 Things to Consider Before Choosing an Accountability Partner

I think we can all agree that accountability is a HUGE tool in our success tool bag.

None of us are strangers to the idea of peer pressure. As children it tended to be presented to us as something to avoid. I’m going to ask you to put that concept aside and imagine for a moment:

What could would it mean for you and your business to feel a little positive pressure from someone in the same boots as you? A woman who gets it and pushes you from a place of love, respect and a genuine desire to see you succeed?

That’s the power of an Accountability Partner.

However, I urge you not to pick just anyone. This should be a careful, selective process. Treat it as if you were choosing a daycare provider for your child. Be strict. This is your business baby after all.

Here are some things I encourage my mastermind participants to consider:

  1. Your prospective partner should be motivated. This goes above and beyond what they are telling you in your discussions with them about a partnership. Are they someone you know to be intentional and focused in their day-to-day lives? When you check their social media accounts, are they consistently representing themselves as a business owner? Do you see them out and about networking? These are just a few of the ways you as an outsider can tell if they are seriously working their business.
  2. Where are they in their business? I like to surround myself with people who are, for the most part, a few steps ahead of me. That way I am blessed to have people who have already been through the stage I am currently at. If they aren’t a few steps ahead in their business, then they should at least possess a strong skill set that is complimentary to yours. Where do you struggle? Are they strong it that area?
  3. Are they invested in you and the Accountability Partner process? This is probably the most important question to answer because, if the answer is no, then you’re wasting your time. You partner needs to be willing to make time for you in their schedule. If they are giving you all kinds of reasons why they can’t schedule your sessions on this date or that, move on. They should be a good listener and have a sincere interest in getting to know you in a meaningful way. If they aren’t willing to put in the work to get to know you, how are they going to know when to push you and when you hold back?
  4. They need to have a firm understanding of how your business runs and makes money. The truth is that there is no ‘one size fits all’ business model. Some are very intricate. Some industries are much different than others. Your partner needs to understand, and preferably have some experience in, your business model to be able to successfully help you during your time together.
  5. You must be able to trust your partner. Like Fight Club or one of my mastermind groups, what happens in your sessions needs to stay in your sessions. If you can’t trust your partner, you won’t be able to open up and the process will inevitably fall flat.
  6. You need to care about not letting them down. If you’re not worried about this, then they either aren’t the right fit for you or you’re not ready for the progress. Either way, this partnership won’t end well.

Curious if there are personality types to avoid? There absolutely are. Check out this post.

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For many reasons, I couldn’t go back to my corporate life. One of the biggest reasons was that my perspective on how I was going to live my life had changed. A shift had happened. My time away from my children was going to be spent doing things that I was passionate about. Doing things that got me pumped about life. In May of 2016, I went out on my own and started my business. It was great. I was finally doing things that had me pumped about my time away from my kids. I had the flexibility to spend more time with them. At the end of the day, I had the energy to work in my household and my marriage.

But, while I was living my passion and excited about my life again, it wasn’t all sunshine and roses. Previously, I was a teacher, a sales professional, marketing leader and client services manager. By setting clear objectives, I succeeded in each role, even though they were in different industries.

But being an entrepreneur was a whole new world. I felt the loneliness. I had self-doubt. I didn’t know where to start…and I wasn’t the only one in this boat.

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You see, it’s not just me. And it’s not just you. We are not alone. And when we come together, it’s a powerful thing. With the Fempire Builders community supporting me and holding me accountable, I have experienced the business growth that previously I had only dreamed about.

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