Overflowing with opportunity? Or just plain overrun?

The New Year always brings about a widespread, magical belief in the impossible. It’s a time when the air is filled with a Peter Pan sense of wonder, and dreams take over everywhere you look.

And I get wrapped up in EVERY MINUTE of it.

I’m a dreamer.

I’m also a doer.

Truthfully, isn’t every entrepreneur?

But, if I am being honest, that dreamer mixed with doer quality lying deep within me is what gets me into trouble. It’s a big part of what contributed to my self-proclaimed workaholic status, and it’s 100% what gets me to the bad place.

You know the one.

The one where all of a sudden and out of nowhere I am overbooked, overwhelmed and over extended. It’s a rotating cycle that I have vowed to break this year.

But you maybe thinking, “That vow is all well and good Samantha, but how exactly are you going to break a habit that is so ingrained into the way your brain operates?”

At least, that’s what my husband asked me. (Okay not in those exact words, but he did ask me that).

How I am going to break the habit:

Don’t get me wrong. I am still allowing myself to dream, and to DREAM BIG.


I’ve built a step in between DREAMING and DOING. It’s a step that has been powerfully successful in stopping me from running off in the direction of overbooked, overwhelmed and over extended. The bad place.

Ironically, it’s the very foundation of what I do with my Accountability Coaching clients.

(But you know what they say, it’s always easier to see it in someone else than to catch it in yourself).

Before I even allow myself to start taking the dream through the SMART goal setting method I use, I force myself to stop and set the dream aside.

I use the Voice Memo app on my iPhone to capture both the idea and the energy behind it, and then I walk away from it.

This is usually pretty easy because one of my children are inevitably on their way back into my room (yup, I prefer to work from a desk in the corner of my bedroom) to interrupt me.

For me, however, that interruption is welcome. It’s needed – desperately.

My dreaming ignites my wildly creative side. If left unchecked, I know I’m more likely to get swept up in the excitement and euphoria that the brainstorming process gives me.

So I’ve implemented what I am calling, THE PAUSE:

The Pause is a step in between dreaming and doing where I ask myself, “What is the purpose of this?”

It allows me time to let go of the excitement of dreaming and do some critical thinkingand reflecting around that question before beginning to set goals around the dream itself.

And the clarity that I have found just by implementing this small, yet critical step, has caused a ripple effect throughout my business. I am even more focused and intentional than before. I have created a habit of critical thinking and reflection that now innately woves itself into every thought I have about my business day-to-day.

It’s an integral one tool that I am using to make this year different. To make this the year that I don’t find myself in the bad place. This is the year that I WILL NOT END UP overbooked, overwhelmed and over extended.

Not even once (if all goes according to plan, of course).

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Overwhelmed by the transition to entrepreneurship?

I’ve been there. When I left the corporate and small business worlds to start my own business, I didn’t know what I was in for. I saw other women living lives that I wanted to be mine, and wondered, “How are they doing it?” Knowing something had to give, I totally changed the way I’m running and building my business.

As a mother, blogger, mentor, speaker and business owner, I am used to balancing the demands of many roles. It is hard to “do it all,” and I have learned how to adjust to those expectations. Stick with me and you’ll be diving into your business with fresh eyes and a growth-centered mindset faster than you ever imagined!

It all came to a head in the Fall of 2015. With my daughter’s autism diagnosis and my postpartum depression following my son’s birth, my Spring/Summer that year had been pretty rough. I was feeling pretty kicked around — to say the least. As I was crawling out of the dark and twisty places life had cornered me in that year, I knew that everything had changed.

For many reasons, I couldn’t go back to my corporate life. One of the biggest reasons was that my perspective on how I was going to live my life had changed. A shift had happened. My time away from my children was going to be spent doing things that I was passionate about. Doing things that got me pumped about life. In May of 2016, I went out on my own and started my business. It was great. I was finally doing things that had me pumped about my time away from my kids. I had the flexibility to spend more time with them. At the end of the day, I had the energy to work in my household and my marriage.

But, while I was living my passion and excited about my life again, it wasn’t all sunshine and roses. Previously, I was a teacher, a sales professional, marketing leader and client services manager. By setting clear objectives, I succeeded in each role, even though they were in different industries.

But being an entrepreneur was a whole new world. I felt the loneliness. I had self-doubt. I didn’t know where to start…and I wasn’t the only one in this boat.

Whether I’m out speaking to a room full of female entrepreneurs or leading a workshop, one of the things that I hear over and over again from these amazing women is how great it is to be out from behind their desks and surrounded by a group of like-minded women. And as our conversation continues, it becomes clear that they are looking for a tribe of women that they can connect and collaborate with regularly in an environment that is welcoming, encouraging and safe enough to let their walls down and share. I needed a community like this too. One that encourages fellow members as they conquer fears, overcome obstacles and achieve their dreams. A tribe that leaves me with a new comfort level and the confidence I’m craving to expand my growth and limits — both personally and professionally.

And most importantly, I wanted a place that would offer me more than inspiration. One that would give me the actionable advice, education and mentorship, support and accountability that we all need.

And from these conversations and my own needs, Fempire Builders was born.

You see, it’s not just me. And it’s not just you. We are not alone. And when we come together, it’s a powerful thing. With the Fempire Builders community supporting me and holding me accountable, I have experienced the business growth that previously I had only dreamed about.

Just as it has been for other Fempire Builders, it will be the same for you, too. Wait and see!