How to Move Through Feeling Stuck

As a business owner, mother, partner and all around super-hero, I’ve come to an acceptance of being in ‘doing mode’. Honestly, there’s a comfort to being occupied. As entrepreneurs I know we complain about it, feel overwhelmed by it, and talk about it an awful lot. However, being busy is in our comfort zone because sometimes it distracts us from having to deal with deeper issues. It can give us the appearance of feeling like we are moving forward when sometimes we are simply stuck.

Ugh…I find that feeling of being stuck so uncomfortable! It feels so much better to have clarity, direction and purpose. Alas, feeling stuck happens. Sometimes it pops up out of nowhere, other times you can feel it creeping in. How do you move through feeling stuck? Here are my three tips

1. Make friends with the stuck feeling

We are oh so hard on ourselves when we get stuck. This moment is not a measure of your success, abilities, or anything to do with your worth. It just is. Acknowledge you are feeling stuck.

Talk and listen to the stuck-ness (I mean, literally, talk to yourself) and say “Hey! I see you are here. You must have something you need to tell me. I’m all ears when you are ready to communicate. Until then I’ll just listen and be patient with you.” 

Sometimes it can feel like talking with a toddler, but stick with it, really listen and you’ll see results. 

2. Get physical

You literally need to get out of your mind and into your body. Walk, stretch, move, have sex, massage your feet. Anything you can do to connect with your physical body. Being stuck is a mental blockage. Your body has innate intuition to help you feel calm, grounded and connected to the heart of the matter. So add more physical time. Here’s a five-minute movement sequence with me you can use.

3. Let yourself get bored

Remember all the talk I was saying about being busy earlier in this blog? Well, to move through feeling stuck, you gotta let yourself get bored. Like really bored. The more time you have to do nothing the better.

And I really mean nothing. No meditating, reading, talking, cooking, cleaning, moving…NOTHING. Just sit there. This may feel overwhelming to some so you can always start with a simple 5-minute timer.

From boredom sparks creativity. Why? Because it gives space for the fire to light. And remember, the spark might not come during the boredom, but randomly when you least expect it.

Happy ease to you all! 

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Overwhelmed by the transition to entrepreneurship?

I’ve been there. When I left the corporate and small business worlds to start my own business, I didn’t know what I was in for. I saw other women living lives that I wanted to be mine, and wondered, “How are they doing it?” Knowing something had to give, I totally changed the way I’m running and building my business.

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It all came to a head in the Fall of 2015. With my daughter’s autism diagnosis and my postpartum depression following my son’s birth, my Spring/Summer that year had been pretty rough. I was feeling pretty kicked around — to say the least. As I was crawling out of the dark and twisty places life had cornered me in that year, I knew that everything had changed.

For many reasons, I couldn’t go back to my corporate life. One of the biggest reasons was that my perspective on how I was going to live my life had changed. A shift had happened. My time away from my children was going to be spent doing things that I was passionate about. Doing things that got me pumped about life. In May of 2016, I went out on my own and started my business. It was great. I was finally doing things that had me pumped about my time away from my kids. I had the flexibility to spend more time with them. At the end of the day, I had the energy to work in my household and my marriage.

But, while I was living my passion and excited about my life again, it wasn’t all sunshine and roses. Previously, I was a teacher, a sales professional, marketing leader and client services manager. By setting clear objectives, I succeeded in each role, even though they were in different industries.

But being an entrepreneur was a whole new world. I felt the loneliness. I had self-doubt. I didn’t know where to start…and I wasn’t the only one in this boat.

Whether I’m out speaking to a room full of female entrepreneurs or leading a workshop, one of the things that I hear over and over again from these amazing women is how great it is to be out from behind their desks and surrounded by a group of like-minded women. And as our conversation continues, it becomes clear that they are looking for a tribe of women that they can connect and collaborate with regularly in an environment that is welcoming, encouraging and safe enough to let their walls down and share. I needed a community like this too. One that encourages fellow members as they conquer fears, overcome obstacles and achieve their dreams. A tribe that leaves me with a new comfort level and the confidence I’m craving to expand my growth and limits — both personally and professionally.

And most importantly, I wanted a place that would offer me more than inspiration. One that would give me the actionable advice, education and mentorship, support and accountability that we all need.

And from these conversations and my own needs, Fempire Builders was born.

You see, it’s not just me. And it’s not just you. We are not alone. And when we come together, it’s a powerful thing. With the Fempire Builders community supporting me and holding me accountable, I have experienced the business growth that previously I had only dreamed about.

Just as it has been for other Fempire Builders, it will be the same for you, too. Wait and see!