Honouring your true self and carving a path that celebrates you with Jennifer Febel

Meet Jennifer Febel, Master Hypnotherapist, Holistic Health Coach, Transformative Speaker and Emotional Healer at Blue Lotus Integrative Health, but is known better by most as Live Life Unbroken located in Bradford, ON. Jennifer’s business centres around spreading the idea that no one is broken (no matter how broken they may feel) and that healing emotional health can be achieved. She says, “Basically, I am a self-proclaimed Angry Nice Girl on a mission to reunite people with their emotional selves.”

What inspired you to become a Fempire Builder?

My own personal healing journey has played a very large role in my decision to be a Fempire Builder. For too long, I was told I was broken and that healing was not an option for me. When I was 19, I was diagnosed with seven different mental health illnesses and told that my chances of recovery were less than 12%. And yet here I am; medication free and thriving. My business is about empowering others to take their own healing journey and stop defining themselves by a label.

What’s the best part about owning your own business?

Working in my pajamas from the comfort of my own home! Also, not having to answer to anyone and having the ultimate flexibility in my time and schedule. I love that I get to do what I want, when I want without having to go through multiple levels of red tape or Human Resources drama.

Can you describe a typical day?

All of my days are actually different, which is part of the appeal for me! Some days I see clients. Other days I work on office admin and/or marketing. There are days that I’m at meetings and networking, and some days are strictly for my own self-care.

Who do you count on for help?

I am blessed to have a whole coaching community behind me to support me when I need it. Over the past five years, I have built my tribe of people who support and live the values that I strive to hold for myself and my business. I am also a singer in an all women’s a cappella barbershop chorus (shout out to York Harmony Chorus!), which provides me with an extra community of support.

Have you ever had to sacrifice something at home for work? Or vice versa?

Yes. Not everyone in my life is totally supportive of the work I do so I have had to sacrifice some relationships in order to pursue my passion.

What do you do on a day off? Do you even know what a day off is?

I actually book every Tuesday off as a Self Care day! This is the day I do my own appointments to keep me healthy physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. I have a personal trainer. On these days, I go for acupuncture and Body Talk. Sometimes I take off to a spa just to recharge my batteries. And sometimes, I just sleep!

Tell us about your absolute favourite hobby.

Hula Hoop Dancing! I became a Hooper (as we are known) about nine years ago and fell in love with it almost immediately. I was by no means a natural. Keeping at it, even when my frustration levels were high, taught me how to adapt, change and trust my body to listen to me. Hooping taught me a new way to experience my physical being and it is pure joy. You just can’t be sad while spinning in a circle and dancing to music! Plus, as you hoop the hula-hoop is tracing out sacred geometry patterns around your body so the energetics of hooping and its transformative power are well-known in the Hooping community.

If you could go back in time and tell you start-up self one thing, what would it be?

Chill the heck out! I put so much pressure on myself, in the beginning, to make my business look like something it wasn’t that I wasn’t enjoying what it actually was. I learned that it’s okay to wake up at 10 am and stay up late writing. That I don’t have to be “9-5” to be successful. I learned that my business can look/sound/feel however I want it to be.

What does the future look like for you and your business?

Amazing! I’m working on my book and am looking to do more travelling for my speaking engagements. I’m at a really cool place where people are starting to search me out, which is kind of cool.

Any tips for women thinking of starting a business?

Get help with marketing. Seriously. Passion and ambition are wonderful but if you don’t know how to sell yourself and your services you’ll stall out. Most people think marketing is just about putting the message out there (the “if you build it they will come” business model), but there is more of an art to it than that. If you don’t know marketing, hire someone who does. It will make all the difference. And remember that YOU are the product. So if you’re not comfortable with that, get coaching to find your own self-love so you can shine that passion back into the world.

What is your “WHY” behind your business/being an entrepreneur?

My ‘why’ is that, in order to avoid burning out, I need a job that is flexible and fills my soul. I do what I do because this path called to and found me so part of my ‘why’ is being able to follow my own inner guidance while also building something bigger than myself.

Outside of your business, what’s a dream of yours? Share it with us.

Oooh good question! A dream of mine is to visit the Grand Canyon and the energy vortexes there because I think they sound super cool.

Give us your best self-care/self-love technique.

Honestly, I think this depends on the person – it’s a very individual thing. My best advice is to learn to know who YOU are so that you can give yourself the love you need (versus attempting to make yourself fit a self-care template which I see a lot of people do). If meditation works for you, great. If it doesn’t, that’s great too! Figure out what fills your own soul and then follow that path.

What is your favourite app/tool for your business and why?

I am actually a big fan of Quickbooks. Prior to starting my own business I managed veterinary hospitals and learned how to do bookkeeping there. Sure, it’s a bit of a pain in the butt sometimes, but being able to have an accurate and up-to-date snapshot of your business at any time is wonderful. Tracking your income/expenses using a spreadsheet just doesn’t do the same thing.

What was the best book you ever read for your life as a Fempire Builder? What was your biggest takeaway from it?

Believe it or not, it is a book called “The Surrendered Wife” by Laura Doyle. At its heart, it is a “boundaries with self” book and that taught me how to surrender to the process of life while still making sure my needs are met. It teaches how to identify and express needs as desires, which I used to be pretty terrible at. For a book that has an annoying title, it was incredibly life changing and I think any woman in any type of relationship should read it.

At the end of the day, what do you want us to know about you and your business?

I want people to know that it’s here; that help like this exists. To know that suffering in silence or condemning yourself as being “sick” or “mentally damaged” is not necessary. Truly, no one is broken and anyone – anyone at all! – can heal.

How do you keep going on those days when you’re left questioning what you got yourself into when you started a business? What would you tell another Fempire Builder feeling that way right now?

Self-care, self-care, self-care! When life gets too “life-y,” take a step back and regroup. Make sure your needs are taken care of. Reach out to your tribe and get support – avoid hiding in your pain. So many of us are afraid to show our vulnerability. We mistake it for weakness, however, being vulnerable is actually an incredibly powerful place to be.

Find out more about Jennifer and the clients she is helping on her website. You can also connect with her on Facebook.

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Overwhelmed by the transition to entrepreneurship?

I’ve been there. When I left the corporate and small business worlds to start my own business, I didn’t know what I was in for. I saw other women living lives that I wanted to be mine, and wondered, “How are they doing it?” Knowing something had to give, I totally changed the way I’m running and building my business.

As a mother, blogger, mentor, speaker and business owner, I am used to balancing the demands of many roles. It is hard to “do it all,” and I have learned how to adjust to those expectations. Stick with me and you’ll be diving into your business with fresh eyes and a growth-centered mindset faster than you ever imagined!

It all came to a head in the Fall of 2015. With my daughter’s autism diagnosis and my postpartum depression following my son’s birth, my Spring/Summer that year had been pretty rough. I was feeling pretty kicked around — to say the least. As I was crawling out of the dark and twisty places life had cornered me in that year, I knew that everything had changed.

For many reasons, I couldn’t go back to my corporate life. One of the biggest reasons was that my perspective on how I was going to live my life had changed. A shift had happened. My time away from my children was going to be spent doing things that I was passionate about. Doing things that got me pumped about life. In May of 2016, I went out on my own and started my business. It was great. I was finally doing things that had me pumped about my time away from my kids. I had the flexibility to spend more time with them. At the end of the day, I had the energy to work in my household and my marriage.

But, while I was living my passion and excited about my life again, it wasn’t all sunshine and roses. Previously, I was a teacher, a sales professional, marketing leader and client services manager. By setting clear objectives, I succeeded in each role, even though they were in different industries.

But being an entrepreneur was a whole new world. I felt the loneliness. I had self-doubt. I didn’t know where to start…and I wasn’t the only one in this boat.

Whether I’m out speaking to a room full of female entrepreneurs or leading a workshop, one of the things that I hear over and over again from these amazing women is how great it is to be out from behind their desks and surrounded by a group of like-minded women. And as our conversation continues, it becomes clear that they are looking for a tribe of women that they can connect and collaborate with regularly in an environment that is welcoming, encouraging and safe enough to let their walls down and share. I needed a community like this too. One that encourages fellow members as they conquer fears, overcome obstacles and achieve their dreams. A tribe that leaves me with a new comfort level and the confidence I’m craving to expand my growth and limits — both personally and professionally.

And most importantly, I wanted a place that would offer me more than inspiration. One that would give me the actionable advice, education and mentorship, support and accountability that we all need.

And from these conversations and my own needs, Fempire Builders was born.

You see, it’s not just me. And it’s not just you. We are not alone. And when we come together, it’s a powerful thing. With the Fempire Builders community supporting me and holding me accountable, I have experienced the business growth that previously I had only dreamed about.

Just as it has been for other Fempire Builders, it will be the same for you, too. Wait and see!