Getting unstuck after the winter months

Yes, yes, yes. We all know February was a grey, dull month. We know the Christmas credit card bills rolled in and people tightened their purse strings. Now as March carries on, the snow is beginning to melt leaving mud and dirt in its wake and tax season is just around the corner. People are generally being squeezed at every end of their lives; emotional, physical, mental, and environmental.

So what is there to do as an entrepreneur/solopreneur when you’re riding the same wave as your target market and customer base?

How do you keep yourself from throwing in the towel and crawling into a blanket fort to watch Netflix all day because sales are down and people aren’t engaging?

It all comes down to accepting these two fundamental truths for SURVIVAL when it comes to successfully growing/launching/running a business:

  1. Being dissatisfied with the present moment is never a place to start making changes.
  2. You must come to peace with the present moment first before you can move forward.

Are you satisfied with where your business is right now?

Seems like a simple question with a simple answer. But often it is the question we avoid asking ourselves. In fact, it’s a trick question. Why? Because you want your business to be EVER growing, EVER expanding and ABUNDANT without limits. And that means the satisfaction won’t come from a ‘where you are’ place. It will come from being on the journey of having a business in the first place.

So frustrating right?

We’re so focused on numbers, goals, finances, achievements that often we trick ourselves into believing that the satisfaction won’t come until we hit the destination or reach the goal.

And let me ask you this: Have you ever hit a goal, and within a week of hitting it, you’re back to grinding? Ever feel like you achieve one goal, and immediately the next one is looming before you even have time to bask in the accomplishment of the previous one?

This happens because we forget about those two fundamental truths. All change comes from having peace and satisfaction with exactly what’s happening now.

The secret to accepting these truths is this…

…ALWAYS only ever focus on what you have control over.

  • I can control what I eat.

Good food = Good mood after all ?

  • I can control how many happy hormones get released into my body.

Stretch, dance, pump iron, run, walk, yoga, laugh. Anything that requires physical movement. At least 15 minutes three times a week. Your body is your temple and all that, but it’s literally the fastest way to lift your spirits, clear your mind, and BE OPEN to the most CREATIVE and SUCCESSFUL business ideas.

  • I can control what I watch/read/listen to.

Do you listen to positive podcasts, audio books, or documentaries? OR trashy reality tv shows, shoot ‘em up cop shows or drama-rama soap-like stuff? This is all going into your mind. Which do you think feeds success best?

  • I can control social media.

This is the one that I find most challenging, but most necessary. Friends, rise to the challenge on this one. Desperate times call for desperate measures.

When it comes to what you see on social media, you’re not them, you’re not like them, your success won’t look like theirs, their success isn’t taking away from yours, what they’re doing has nothing to do with what you will do!

Here’s the ONE RULE for controlling social media: Only go on to post, promote or engage for your business.

No scrolling, no liking, no emoji-ing, no searching, no creeping.

Try consciously focusing only on what you can control for a week and see how it goes. And, if it helps, the warmer weather is right around the corner.

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Overwhelmed by the transition to entrepreneurship?

I’ve been there. When I left the corporate and small business worlds to start my own business, I didn’t know what I was in for. I saw other women living lives that I wanted to be mine, and wondered, “How are they doing it?” Knowing something had to give, I totally changed the way I’m running and building my business.

As a mother, blogger, mentor, speaker and business owner, I am used to balancing the demands of many roles. It is hard to “do it all,” and I have learned how to adjust to those expectations. Stick with me and you’ll be diving into your business with fresh eyes and a growth-centered mindset faster than you ever imagined!

It all came to a head in the Fall of 2015. With my daughter’s autism diagnosis and my postpartum depression following my son’s birth, my Spring/Summer that year had been pretty rough. I was feeling pretty kicked around — to say the least. As I was crawling out of the dark and twisty places life had cornered me in that year, I knew that everything had changed.

For many reasons, I couldn’t go back to my corporate life. One of the biggest reasons was that my perspective on how I was going to live my life had changed. A shift had happened. My time away from my children was going to be spent doing things that I was passionate about. Doing things that got me pumped about life. In May of 2016, I went out on my own and started my business. It was great. I was finally doing things that had me pumped about my time away from my kids. I had the flexibility to spend more time with them. At the end of the day, I had the energy to work in my household and my marriage.

But, while I was living my passion and excited about my life again, it wasn’t all sunshine and roses. Previously, I was a teacher, a sales professional, marketing leader and client services manager. By setting clear objectives, I succeeded in each role, even though they were in different industries.

But being an entrepreneur was a whole new world. I felt the loneliness. I had self-doubt. I didn’t know where to start…and I wasn’t the only one in this boat.

Whether I’m out speaking to a room full of female entrepreneurs or leading a workshop, one of the things that I hear over and over again from these amazing women is how great it is to be out from behind their desks and surrounded by a group of like-minded women. And as our conversation continues, it becomes clear that they are looking for a tribe of women that they can connect and collaborate with regularly in an environment that is welcoming, encouraging and safe enough to let their walls down and share. I needed a community like this too. One that encourages fellow members as they conquer fears, overcome obstacles and achieve their dreams. A tribe that leaves me with a new comfort level and the confidence I’m craving to expand my growth and limits — both personally and professionally.

And most importantly, I wanted a place that would offer me more than inspiration. One that would give me the actionable advice, education and mentorship, support and accountability that we all need.

And from these conversations and my own needs, Fempire Builders was born.

You see, it’s not just me. And it’s not just you. We are not alone. And when we come together, it’s a powerful thing. With the Fempire Builders community supporting me and holding me accountable, I have experienced the business growth that previously I had only dreamed about.

Just as it has been for other Fempire Builders, it will be the same for you, too. Wait and see!