Feel like giving up? Read this.

[et_pb_section fb_built=”1″ _builder_version=”3.22″][et_pb_row _builder_version=”3.25″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat”][et_pb_column type=”4_4″ _builder_version=”3.25″ custom_padding=”|||” custom_padding__hover=”|||”][et_pb_text _builder_version=”3.27.4″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat”]

There are moments that come where giving up on my business feels like my only option. I feel tired, scared and alone. I don’t always feel up to the challenges that come with being a fempire builder. Instead, I want to give up.

But I know in my soul that that is not the answer. So, I don’t give up. Instead, support myself with what I call a SMMAC*. 

What is SMMAC?

SMMAC is a set of inquiries and practices I do to help me go from overwhelm to feeling my worth and embodying the incredible fempire builder I know deep down I am.

Follow along with these guidelines the next time you just want to throw in the towel:

SURFACE: What are all of the things that are going on on the surface? Make a list. (Examples of things I find in my own inquiries: I’ve taken on too much, something is going on in my family life, not sleeping well, no one is buying, no personal time, I have PMS, etc). 

MINDSET: When I want to give up, I am also feeling tired, overwhelmed and not very confident in my worth. Choose an affirmation from below – or all of them – to write out 10 times and repeat it out loud to yourself with gusto.

Focusing on this step takes me from ‘pleeease someone rescue me’, to ‘I can do this!’

MOVEMENT: Running a business puts you in your head. You end up thinking a lot. It’s time to get out of your head and into your body. It can be as simple as going for a walk or head to a class such as dance, fitness or yoga. Whatever you do, get your body moving! This is a must. 

ACTION: Remember that list you made at the Surface step? Time to dig deep and take action on a few items that may be popping out. So, try at least one business action and one personal action. (Examples are: cancel something non-essential, go to bed earlier, set a timer for 5 minutes of income-generating activities, sign up for the course to learn a new skill you need).

CELEBRATION: Celebrate you taking action! If your actions are scheduled for later, then take a moment to recognize how far you have come. Whatever it is that makes you feel even the slightest bit proud of you and your accomplishments, no matter how small, take a moment to celebrate in a way that makes you smile.

Giving up is part of the cycle

Remember, businesses, just like life, have cycles. There will be ups and downs. This is normal. Remember to honour your PROGRESS as you take each and every step and throw perfection out the window.  

* I like to pronounce this as ‘smack’ because we all need a good wake up call sometimes.

[/et_pb_text][et_pb_divider _builder_version=”4.0.3″ hover_enabled=”0″][/et_pb_divider][/et_pb_column][/et_pb_row][et_pb_row _builder_version=”4.0.3″ column_structure=”2_5,3_5″][et_pb_column _builder_version=”4.0.3″ type=”2_5″][et_pb_divider _builder_version=”4.0.3″ show_divider=”off” hover_enabled=”0″][/et_pb_divider][et_pb_image src=”https://fempirebuilders.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/01/Jen-43-copy.jpg” _builder_version=”4.0.3″ hover_enabled=”0″][/et_pb_image][et_pb_social_media_follow _builder_version=”4.0.3″ hover_enabled=”0″ text_orientation=”center”][et_pb_social_media_follow_network social_network=”facebook” background_color=”#3b5998″ _builder_version=”4.0.3″ follow_button=”off” url_new_window=”on” url=”https://www.facebook.com/jenwendewellness/” hover_enabled=”0″]facebook[/et_pb_social_media_follow_network][et_pb_social_media_follow_network social_network=”twitter” background_color=”#00aced” _builder_version=”4.0.3″ follow_button=”off” url_new_window=”on” url=”www.twitter.com/jenwende” hover_enabled=”0″]twitter[/et_pb_social_media_follow_network][et_pb_social_media_follow_network social_network=”instagram” background_color=”#ea2c59″ _builder_version=”4.0.3″ follow_button=”off” url_new_window=”on” url=”https://www.instagram.com/jenwende/” hover_enabled=”0″]instagram[/et_pb_social_media_follow_network][et_pb_social_media_follow_network social_network=”youtube” background_color=”#a82400″ _builder_version=”4.0.3″ follow_button=”off” url_new_window=”on” url=”https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzRqwmhn6xqD5zEtAiPUyBQ?view_as=subscriber” hover_enabled=”0″]youtube[/et_pb_social_media_follow_network][et_pb_social_media_follow_network social_network=”pinterest” background_color=”#cb2027″ _builder_version=”4.0.3″ follow_button=”off” url_new_window=”on” url=”https://www.pinterest.ca/jenwende/” hover_enabled=”0″]pinterest[/et_pb_social_media_follow_network][/et_pb_social_media_follow][/et_pb_column][et_pb_column _builder_version=”4.0.3″ type=”3_5″][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.0.3″ hover_enabled=”0″]

Jen operates under 3 principles; breathe, move and connect. As a mom, she values using what is learned in the classroom and applying it to daily life.

Jen is a wellness coach certified in yoga therapy, Barre, Pilates and Yoga Tune Up®, with an enthusiasm for essential oils. Her approach uses anatomical alignment principles, restoration and mindset practices. Her goal is to help clients integrate wellness tools through strengthening their body and mind and releasing physical and mental stress to allowing for vibrancy to shine through.


Like this article?

Share on facebook
Share on Facebook
Share on twitter
Share on Twitter

Leave a comment

Overwhelmed by the transition to entrepreneurship?

I’ve been there. When I left the corporate and small business worlds to start my own business, I didn’t know what I was in for. I saw other women living lives that I wanted to be mine, and wondered, “How are they doing it?” Knowing something had to give, I totally changed the way I’m running and building my business.

As a mother, blogger, mentor, speaker and business owner, I am used to balancing the demands of many roles. It is hard to “do it all,” and I have learned how to adjust to those expectations. Stick with me and you’ll be diving into your business with fresh eyes and a growth-centered mindset faster than you ever imagined!

It all came to a head in the Fall of 2015. With my daughter’s autism diagnosis and my postpartum depression following my son’s birth, my Spring/Summer that year had been pretty rough. I was feeling pretty kicked around — to say the least. As I was crawling out of the dark and twisty places life had cornered me in that year, I knew that everything had changed.

For many reasons, I couldn’t go back to my corporate life. One of the biggest reasons was that my perspective on how I was going to live my life had changed. A shift had happened. My time away from my children was going to be spent doing things that I was passionate about. Doing things that got me pumped about life. In May of 2016, I went out on my own and started my business. It was great. I was finally doing things that had me pumped about my time away from my kids. I had the flexibility to spend more time with them. At the end of the day, I had the energy to work in my household and my marriage.

But, while I was living my passion and excited about my life again, it wasn’t all sunshine and roses. Previously, I was a teacher, a sales professional, marketing leader and client services manager. By setting clear objectives, I succeeded in each role, even though they were in different industries.

But being an entrepreneur was a whole new world. I felt the loneliness. I had self-doubt. I didn’t know where to start…and I wasn’t the only one in this boat.

Whether I’m out speaking to a room full of female entrepreneurs or leading a workshop, one of the things that I hear over and over again from these amazing women is how great it is to be out from behind their desks and surrounded by a group of like-minded women. And as our conversation continues, it becomes clear that they are looking for a tribe of women that they can connect and collaborate with regularly in an environment that is welcoming, encouraging and safe enough to let their walls down and share. I needed a community like this too. One that encourages fellow members as they conquer fears, overcome obstacles and achieve their dreams. A tribe that leaves me with a new comfort level and the confidence I’m craving to expand my growth and limits — both personally and professionally.

And most importantly, I wanted a place that would offer me more than inspiration. One that would give me the actionable advice, education and mentorship, support and accountability that we all need.

And from these conversations and my own needs, Fempire Builders was born.

You see, it’s not just me. And it’s not just you. We are not alone. And when we come together, it’s a powerful thing. With the Fempire Builders community supporting me and holding me accountable, I have experienced the business growth that previously I had only dreamed about.

Just as it has been for other Fempire Builders, it will be the same for you, too. Wait and see!