I am Perfectly Imperfect & I’m Ok with THAT!

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As women we wear many hats in our lives, from motherhood, sister, wife counselor, caregiver, manager, owner, creators and everything else in between; and yet we strive to be perfect in everything we do, why is that?

I know as a woman in business, wife, and mother, I used to fall into the trap of  ” If I don’t present well, what would the outside world think of me”? This would at times cripple me with the feeling that my IMPERFECTION would be frowned upon as a failure.

Perfection was something I strived for, in hopes that it would prove that I am worthy in the eyes of my peers, It would show that I was good enough to fit into a particular crowd while rewarding me validation from others.  I now realize that I couldn’t be further from the truth. Although it took me quite some time to break this mindset, I knew quickly that the more I focused on perfection and what others think, would hold me back from sharing my authentic self! After all, life happens and life itself it’s not perfect. 

We must also understand that professionalism does not mean your perfect, It says that you care enough about what you do and want to launch or present in the best way that you can…Not to impress for perfection or approval, but to share that you know your craft and know it WELL.

Author and Functional Life Coach, Mastin Kipp says..” We should focus on being of service in business, not perfection; that we need to go for it and not to overthink it. Just do it, do it messy & afraid”.   

The Benefit of Imperfection

Tina Fey says it best: “Don’t overthink it. It will never be perfect. Perfection is overrated”.

Imperfection allows us to become more creative during our thought process. It relieves the stress and allows you to work past your mistakes and grow from failure.. well at least for me it does. ☺ 

By making peace that you are not perfect, and it is a beautiful place to be. When we release the need to be perfect, it will make room for you to present yourself in your purest form while accepting the fact, that it is more than okay to be perfectly IMPERFECT, even in business. 

Steps To Break Away From Perfectionism: 

  1. Laugh more, everything does not have to be a big deal or production.
  2. Ask yourself  “What am I hoping to gain and WHO’s validation am I seeking?
  3. Stop worrying about your completion. “Comparison is the thief of all joy!
  4. Set boundaries, as we can’t avoid deadlines but you control how you will complete the assignment.
  5. Renew Your Mindset.  Replace the word competition with collaboration.  The simple thought of working with others for the greater good, feels a lot less stressful than feeling like you have to compete.
  6. Step aside. Sometimes we need to hit pause and look at the bigger picture. Take a moment to reflect and ask yourself step two, if it is worth it proceed, if it is not, well that could simply mean it may be time for a change of plans.
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MariaMichelle’lee is a sought after Inspirational Speaker who fully embraces the power of story to motivate, inspire and transform the lives of others.

Combining her personal life experience, with over ten years of empowering others, Maria is best known for her ability to boost women out of their self-doubting beliefs, and challenge them to regain their power within, and push to greatness. As a Mirror Work Coach, MariaMichell’lee is a powerhouse encouraging women to speak their truth from the inside out.

When Maria is not travelling for work, you will find her enjoying family time with her husband and High School Sweetheart of over 20 years, and their three amazing children, Rashaun, Soraya, and Kaemon.


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Overwhelmed by the transition to entrepreneurship?

I’ve been there. When I left the corporate and small business worlds to start my own business, I didn’t know what I was in for. I saw other women living lives that I wanted to be mine, and wondered, “How are they doing it?” Knowing something had to give, I totally changed the way I’m running and building my business.

As a mother, blogger, mentor, speaker and business owner, I am used to balancing the demands of many roles. It is hard to “do it all,” and I have learned how to adjust to those expectations. Stick with me and you’ll be diving into your business with fresh eyes and a growth-centered mindset faster than you ever imagined!

It all came to a head in the Fall of 2015. With my daughter’s autism diagnosis and my postpartum depression following my son’s birth, my Spring/Summer that year had been pretty rough. I was feeling pretty kicked around — to say the least. As I was crawling out of the dark and twisty places life had cornered me in that year, I knew that everything had changed.

For many reasons, I couldn’t go back to my corporate life. One of the biggest reasons was that my perspective on how I was going to live my life had changed. A shift had happened. My time away from my children was going to be spent doing things that I was passionate about. Doing things that got me pumped about life. In May of 2016, I went out on my own and started my business. It was great. I was finally doing things that had me pumped about my time away from my kids. I had the flexibility to spend more time with them. At the end of the day, I had the energy to work in my household and my marriage.

But, while I was living my passion and excited about my life again, it wasn’t all sunshine and roses. Previously, I was a teacher, a sales professional, marketing leader and client services manager. By setting clear objectives, I succeeded in each role, even though they were in different industries.

But being an entrepreneur was a whole new world. I felt the loneliness. I had self-doubt. I didn’t know where to start…and I wasn’t the only one in this boat.

Whether I’m out speaking to a room full of female entrepreneurs or leading a workshop, one of the things that I hear over and over again from these amazing women is how great it is to be out from behind their desks and surrounded by a group of like-minded women. And as our conversation continues, it becomes clear that they are looking for a tribe of women that they can connect and collaborate with regularly in an environment that is welcoming, encouraging and safe enough to let their walls down and share. I needed a community like this too. One that encourages fellow members as they conquer fears, overcome obstacles and achieve their dreams. A tribe that leaves me with a new comfort level and the confidence I’m craving to expand my growth and limits — both personally and professionally.

And most importantly, I wanted a place that would offer me more than inspiration. One that would give me the actionable advice, education and mentorship, support and accountability that we all need.

And from these conversations and my own needs, Fempire Builders was born.

You see, it’s not just me. And it’s not just you. We are not alone. And when we come together, it’s a powerful thing. With the Fempire Builders community supporting me and holding me accountable, I have experienced the business growth that previously I had only dreamed about.

Just as it has been for other Fempire Builders, it will be the same for you, too. Wait and see!