Last summer, I made the decision to homeschool my two young children. It meant a huge shift in many things in our lives, but where did I notice it the most? On social media. We’ve all heard of FOMO or the Fear of Missing Out before, and it really kicked itself into high gear for me when I found myself no longer able to attend the events my network and I had always gone too. Seeing their pictures of all the fun they were having really sucked.
I had two choices. I could sit around feeling depressed (a feeling I am VERY familiar with) and left out or I could accept my new norm and create a roadmap of how I would build my business going forward. After a small pity party, I chose the latter.
My list of non-negotiables:
The self-comparison that has become so easy to us with the birth of social media is becoming a very self-destructive habit for our society. We see amazing pictures online, giving us a glimpse into someone else’s seemingly perfect lives, and make assumption and comparisons without any context. It has become something that we do without even realizing we are doing it.
Needless to say, this quickly went on my annual list of non-negotiables. This is a list I make at the beginning of each year that includes 3-5 habits that I need to change over the course of the year. At the top of the list for this year was: Stop Comparing Myself to Others.
Easier said than done:
Setting my intention was the easy part. Figuring out how to stop the self-comparisons was a different story. With a greater restraint on my time, I had to be MUCH MORE selective about what I could and couldn’t do. I had to feel my way to a new balance of building my network and my business. A way that placed more emphasis on the online world and this meant MORE TIME on social media. With the increase in exposure to social media, the temptation was even greater than before and FOMO was even more of a possibility.
Reminding myself why:
The most effective tool for me to make good on my new intention was to remind myself WHY. Why I wasn’t doing what I had been once able to do without thought or question. I had a made a choice to homeschool because it was in the best interest of my children. Truth be told, I really enjoyed being such a big part of their education. I reminded myself that I was actually excited about this shift into more of an online business model because it got me closer to my business end game and was really something I had ALWAYS dreamed of doing.
Whenever I found myself in the depths of FOMO, I would list all of the reasons I had made the choices that have led me to this point. And what I found was this: I was actually more excited about missing out. Eventually, it stopped even occurring to me that I wasn’t in any of the pictures I was seeing online. My WHY‘s were ingrained and the habit was changed.
Yes, these choices have meant that the timelines on my goals have changed. But I don’t need to reach my end game tomorrow. In the grand scheme of things, I am also more than my business. And, these equally important areas of my life need more attention right now. That’s okay. It’s all part of managing my life flow.