Meet Jennifer Febel, Master Hypnotherapist, Holistic Health Coach, Transformative Speaker and Emotional Healer at Blue Lotus Integrative Health, but is known better by most as Live Life Unbroken located in Bradford, ON. Jennifer’s business centres around spreading the idea that no one is broken (no matter how broken they may feel) and that healing emotional health can be achieved. She says, “Basically, I am a self-proclaimed Angry Nice Girl on a mission to reunite people with their emotional selves.”
What inspired you to become a Fempire Builder?
My own personal healing journey has played a very large role in my decision to be a Fempire Builder. For too long, I was told I was broken and that healing was not an option for me. When I was 19, I was diagnosed with seven different mental health illnesses and told that my chances of recovery were less than 12%. And yet here I am; medication free and thriving. My business is about empowering others to take their own healing journey and stop defining themselves by a label.
What’s the best part about owning your own business?
Working in my pajamas from the comfort of my own home! Also, not having to answer to anyone and having the ultimate flexibility in my time and schedule. I love that I get to do what I
Can you describe a typical day?
All of my days are actually different, which is part of the appeal for me! Some days I see clients. Other days I work on office admin and/or marketing. There are days that I’m at meetings and networking, and some days are strictly for my own self-care.
Who do you count on for help?
I am blessed to have a whole coaching community behind me to support me when I need it. Over the past five years, I have built my tribe of people who support and live the values that I strive to hold for myself and my business. I am also a singer in an all women’s a cappella barbershop chorus (shout out to York Harmony Chorus!), which provides me with an extra community of support.
Have you ever had to sacrifice something at home for work? Or vice versa?
Yes. Not everyone in my life is totally supportive of the work I do so I have had to sacrifice some relationships in order to pursue my passion.
What do you do on a day off? Do you even know what a day off is?
I actually book every Tuesday off as a Self Care day! This is the day I do my own appointments to keep me healthy physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. I have a personal trainer. On these days, I go for acupuncture and Body Talk. Sometimes I take off to a spa just to recharge my batteries. And sometimes, I just sleep!
Tell us about your absolute favourite hobby.
Hula Hoop Dancing! I became a Hooper (as we are known) about nine years ago and fell in love with it almost immediately. I was by no means a natural. Keeping at it, even when my frustration levels were high, taught me how to adapt, change and trust my body to listen to me. Hooping taught me a new way to experience my physical being and it is pure joy. You just can’t be sad while spinning in a circle and dancing to music! Plus, as you hoop the hula-hoop is tracing out sacred geometry patterns around your body so the energetics of hooping and its transformative power are well-known in the Hooping community.
If you could go back in time and tell you start-up self one thing, what would it be?
Chill the heck out! I put so much pressure on myself, in the beginning, to make my business look like something it wasn’t that I wasn’t enjoying what it actually was. I learned that it’s okay to wake up at 10 am and stay up late writing. That I don’t have to be “9-5” to be successful. I learned that my business can look/sound/feel however I want it to be.
What does the future look like for you and your business?
Amazing! I’m working on my book and am looking to do more travelling for my speaking engagements. I’m at a really cool place where people are starting to search me out, which is kind of cool.
Any tips for women thinking of starting a business?
Get help with marketing. Seriously. Passion and ambition are wonderful but if you don’t know how to sell yourself and your services you’ll stall out. Most people think marketing is just about putting the message out there (the “if you build it they will come” business model), but there is more of an art to it than that. If you don’t know marketing, hire someone who does. It will make all the difference. And remember that YOU are the product. So if you’re not comfortable with that, get coaching to find your own self-love so you can shine that passion back into the world.
What is your “WHY” behind your business/being an entrepreneur?
My ‘why’ is that, in order to avoid burning out, I need a job that is flexible and fills my soul. I do what I do because this path called to and found me so part of my ‘why’ is being able to follow my own inner guidance while also building something bigger than myself.
Outside of your business, what’s a dream of yours? Share it with us.
Oooh good question! A dream of mine is to visit the Grand Canyon and the energy vortexes there because I think they sound super cool.
Give us your best self-care/self-love technique.
Honestly, I think this depends on the person – it’s a very individual thing. My best advice is to learn to know who YOU are so that you can give yourself the love you need (versus attempting to make yourself fit a self-care template which I see a lot of people do). If meditation works for you, great. If it doesn’t, that’s great too! Figure out what fills your own soul and then follow that path.
What is your favourite app/tool for your business and why?
I am actually a big fan of Quickbooks. Prior to starting my own business I managed veterinary hospitals and learned how to do bookkeeping there. Sure, it’s a bit of a pain in the butt sometimes, but being able to have an accurate and up-to-date snapshot of your business at any time is wonderful. Tracking your income/expenses using a spreadsheet just doesn’t do the same thing.
What was the best book you ever read for your life as a Fempire B
uilder? What was your biggest takeaway from it?
Believe it or not, it is a book called “The Surrendered Wife” by Laura Doyle. At its heart, it is a “boundaries with self” book and that taught me how to surrender to the process of life while still making sure my needs are met. It teaches how to identify and express needs as desires, which I used to be pretty terrible at. For a book that has an annoying title, it was incredibly life changing and I think any woman in any type of relationship should read it.
At the end of the day, what do you want us to know about you and your business?
I want people to know that it’s here; that help like this exists. To know that suffering in silence or condemning yourself as being “sick” or “mentally damaged” is not necessary. Truly, no one is broken and anyone – anyone at all! – can heal.
How do you keep going on those days when you’re left questioning what you got yourself into when you started a business? What would you tell another Fempire Builder feeling that way right now?
Self-care, self-care, self-care! When life gets too “life-y,” take a step back and regroup. Make sure your needs are taken care of. Reach out to your tribe and get support – avoid hiding in your pain. So many of us are afraid to show our vulnerability. We mistake it for weakness, however, being vulnerable is actually an incredibly powerful place to be.