You’re the only one standing in your way

It’s YOU vs. YOU. After hearing this Gary V quote last year, I found myself immediately inspired. I identified with it so much that I even found an image of it and made it the background on my phone. It’s still there, and it’s a powerful reminder that I am the only one who can make my dreams come true is me – even if, at times, I am my own worst enemy.

Reality Check: There is only me

As a solopreneur who works from home, it really is only me. Aside from my kids, who have no problem waking me up every morning with a list of demands until I start listing my own, there is no one making sure I get to the office each day. It’s not like having a job to get to every day where you have a boss noticing when you’re absent or not producing results. Yes, I have a mastermind group and an accountability partner, but they aren’t with me every day.

That subtle accountability and peer pressure you find in an employed position every single day just don’t exist when it’s your business and you’re the one calling the shots. It’s easy to put off the income generating activities (or any activities) when the weather’s nice, you’re kids are screaming in the background or you just want to binge watch one more episode of that show on Netflix.

A Motivation and Focus Based Mindset is all you need

That is easy to say. While it is part of the equation, I call BS on the idea that it’s all you need. Some days that headspace can be a lot harder to corral than those people telling you that can understand. I know for me it is. My mind can be a dark, anxiety-ridden place. I suffer from depression. Even with medication, some days I don’t want to get out of bed. No matter how many motivational quotes I have in my line of view, the will to get out of the safety and security of my bed just isn’t there. And, if it’s a not-so-bad day and I can get out of bed, I don’t necessarily have the motivation to get down to work.

The Rest of the Equation

I am lucky that I have my mastermind group and accountability partner to help pull me out of those twisty places. That’s part of my structure. It’s a routine of check-ins that I’ve created to help fill the subtle accountability and peer pressure that I lost when leaving the corporate world. The structure also involves weekly routines that I’ve set out for tasks that need to occur each month in my business. I find these lists serve as a fall back routine on days when motivation is hard to find. When the mindset isn’t there, tangible processes will get me up and feeling productive.

My Challenge to you is this

Commit to stopping the negative self-talk and destructive comparisons of yourself to others. Accept yourself – even on those dark days. Set up a support system to serve as check-ins for your progress. Take the time to put tangible processes into place to keep you moving along when you may be struggling.

The long and the short of it is: You’re the only one standing in your way right now, but you’re not the only one relying on you to tackle the world today. Whether it’s the people you are helping through your business or helping put food on your family’s table, the world needs you to win the YOU vs. YOU battle.

Samantha King

Samantha King

Samantha King is a business strategist and mentor helping busy boss moms like herself get on track in their business, identify and map out opportunities to level up, and work with them to implement the systems and processes within their businesses that they need to make that growth happen. Samantha is also a self-professed TV fanatic, natural storyteller, an Adult Colourer, Photography Enthusiast, a Book Junkie, Meditator in training, possible runner, and (my guilty pleasure) a certified people watcher.

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2 thoughts on “You’re the only one standing in your way

  • July 13, 2018 at 9:53 am
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    Loved this post, Samantha! I also love your honesty and your authenticity…you help make people realize that we are all human and although we have weakness/challenges, we are blessed with a lot of positive qualities that we need to share with this world…it really is our God-given duty to share our gifts and talents as He intended. Sometimes we just need a little help getting out of our own head and quit being so hard on ourselves…nobody is perfect, and we weren’t made to be perfect…we just need to try our best and be kind to one another. Have a beautiful day, Samantha, and enjoy those lovely little kiddies as they grow up so fast!

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  • August 6, 2018 at 10:09 pm
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    This is a great article and I can totally relate about surrounding yourself with like minded people and accountability. Your group has been huge for me with accountability!

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